There is no relationship that's perfect. Humans are complex creatures. Our relationships can become complicated because of this.

It can be difficult to see the larger picture when a relationship takes a bad turn. Sometimes our feelings can cloud our judgements. This causes us to be blind to the reality in front of our eyes.

Chronic stress can cause us to lose sight of the good. Our emotions can lead us to overlook abuse.

Toxic behavior is a side effect to being human. If left unchecked these toxic behaviors can lead to more serious problems.

Some unhappy relationships can be abusive. Not all abusive relationships are unhappy. Here are some ways to determine if you're suffering from unhealthy toxicity and abuse.

1. Different Opinion or Gaslighting

An argument is not an indication of abuse. Our perceptions are limited and we navigate our lives using them. It's possible that two people might have different opinions.
Both parties can freely express their opinions in a healthy relationship. Even if they disagree, both sides can listen to the other side without feeling attacked.

When one partner is abusive, the relationship can turn into an abuse situation. Gaslighting refers to a manipulative tactic where one person attempts to make the other question their reality.

To put it another way, gaslighting is a form of saying "that's how I felt about it" which can be considered unhealthy. Gaslighting, however, sounds like "you don’t know what your talking about."

Gaslighting can happen to anyone, regardless of whether they realize it. Avoid gaslighting by using "I" statements. These statements should be focused on you and not them.

2. Are You a Bully or Negative Nancy?

We are all susceptible to negative mood swings. Evolution Counseling says that some people use negative thoughts as a defense mechanism.

Negativity is the expression or stagnation and despair. These are the precursors to the depression apocalypse. Counselor Michael Schreiner stated that projecting negativity is... a strategy for trying to keep depression at bay.

Yes, constant negativity can be unpleasant to hear. It could also be a sign of someone struggling. They might find it difficult to be around. Negativity does not necessarily make someone an abuser.

Negative remarks directed at a partner can raise red flags. Belittling your partner is a form mental abuse. Be aware of negative statements such as "You never do anything right."

Both direct and vague negativity are worth being addressed. However, it is important to distinguish between the causes. Both can be indicators of poor mental health. This could lead to your mental illness.

3. Are you insecure or accusatory?

Trust issues can also swing between abusive and unhealthy. It is how the insecure party responds and moves forward that makes the difference.

Experience is what we learn. Trust issues can arise when someone has been cheated on by multiple partners. People with low self-esteem can also be susceptible to jealousy. Although jealousy can be natural and complicated, it can also indicate a desire for commitment. You wouldn't be jealous if you didn't care.

But jealousy can be dangerous when it is used to control. Harmful insecurity is a person trying to control the actions of another. Harmful insecurity can also manifest itself as a lack or respect for privacy and other human rights.

It is normal for your partner to feel a little anxious when you talk to the stunner at Starbucks yesterday. Your partner isn't okay with you refusing to go back to the Starbucks.

4. Tantrum Or A Threat?

We often associate abuse with physical signs. Bruises or cuts can indicate a bigger problem. What happens if that aggression isn’t directed atyou, but aroundyou.

Anger is a natural emotion. Anger is a natural emotion. Our environment, our genes, and childhood all play a role in how much and how often we feel it. Aggression is the way we react to anger. Aggression can be as simple as assaulting another person, but it can also include destroying property or causing harm to the aggressor.

Aggressive expression is normal in children. This behavior can continue into adulthood and be an indicator of emotional maturity. It can be a sign that someone is abusing you, even if it hasn’t yet.

Counseling might be necessary if your partner acts aggressively towards you or with others when they are angry. Seek help immediately if your partner acts aggressively towards you.

With practice, anyone can change bad habits. Abusers and those who have been abused need counseling to heal and process their traumas. It could save a relationship that is worth keeping. You could save your life by learning to tell the difference and letting go of a relationship that isn’t working.

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By: Melanie A. Davis
Title: 4 Subtle Signs Your Relationship Isn’t Just Unhealthy, It’s Abusive
Sourced From: www.suggest.com/subtle-signs-of-abusive-relationships/2616725/
Published Date: Sat, 29 Jan 2022 23:45:00 +0000

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