Wicks has always been a study in contrast — a dreamer and a pragmatist, soft-spoken and assertive, light on her feet but the heavy under the basket. Two plus decades ago, she questioned why teams were flying commercial, given that travel delays affected performance; it’s still an issue for this year’s team, which endured multiple delays on a return flight from Indianapolis. She also questioned why W.N.B.A. marketing focused on the personal lives of only the straight players in the league.
Wicks managed to be before her time and of her time. When she was asked matter-of-factly by a magazine reporter in 2002 if she was gay, she answered just as directly and became the first openly gay active professional basketball player.
“You never hear about a player coming out anymore like it’s a confession about this terrible thing. Now it’s a celebration of love, that they’re getting married. And I’m like, wow, they really turned the tables,” Wicks said. “It’s like I’m not coming out, but I will announce my child is being born with my partner. That is fantastic. I wish that was the perspective then.”
After retiring from the Liberty, Wicks coached college basketball, including a stint at Rutgers, her alma mater, and founded a fitness company before finding her way back to the water. Her commute to work is now a walk across the street to her dock on the bay. Wearing overall waders and violet-colored Crocs on a recent day, she steered her 24-foot boat through the salty Moriches Bay air to the floating cages of her oyster farm, Violet Cove Oysters. Wicks and her two crew members hand-selected every oyster and left the bay with 2,500 to deliver to two restaurants and a wholesaler.